How I escaped motivational paralysis and got things done.

7 Books To Help You Escape Your Mental Cage.

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You are set to change your life. Your determination and zeal are unshaken.

You try out all ways to change.

But something awful happens. You begin to procrastinate. You lose the momentum—your determination withers. You lack the will.

You get discouraged.

You find solace in motivation. You get refueled only to end in motivation paralysis and trapped in the same life cycle.

You wonder whether you made the right choices in life.

You are not alone.

I was once stuck in that cycle. I am still struggling to heal from this paralysis and learn to take action. Identifying your problem is the first step. Separates winners from losers.

Here are seven books that helped me gain the upper hand when stuck in the life cycle.

1. Learn from the Masters

I never believed in mentorship. I never imagined that I would get to the level of mastering anything.

Robert Greene’s book Mastery proved that there is a shortcut. You can become the best version of yourself. Learn from exemplary achievers in your industry by mirroring them.

Direct your attention to observe, think, and practice something from a master. Keep practicing your craft, building a foundation based on your attitude.

2. Challenge Yourself to Fail

It’s not every day that you hear someone encourage you to fail. The sooner you get exposed to failure, the faster you learn and the higher your chances of succeeding.

Failure is not the opposite of success; it’s part of success. Arianna Huffington

Jia Jing’s book Rejection Proof creates an approach to tackling the fear of handling NO. Jing points out that rejection never lasts forever. Being rejected hurts, but it should be a stepping stone for your growth.

The more familiar you become with rejection, the lesser you will focus on failure.

3. What If I Die Tomorrow Attitude

Fear is an emotional motivation. When it’s not harnessed, it can ruin you. If redirected, it can be a great source of inspiration.

Man’s Search For Meaning by Victor Frankl seeks to show endurance. Hardships are a great chance to open doors for opportunities.

No man seeks to die without accomplishment. This tactic is to help you face each day like your last one and use it to fuel you to achieve.

4. Be Selfish and Choose You

Being a yes man can at times lead to poor self-esteem. I was once a slave of others- often aligning my ways to fit theirs.

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius is a great read. You will learn how to become disciplined, choose yourself and endure tough times.

But, being selfish has dire consequences on your relationship with family or friends. You will only escape the barriers in your mind when you choose yourself.

5. Small Changes Ripple Into Big Effects

Significant changes in your life will only happen once you take small steps. Taking small daily efforts leads to developing your expertise and becoming better.

James Clear’s book Atomic Habits describes actionable steps towards changing habits. He also points out that changes will happen once you make it easy, obvious, and attractive.

To become a better husband, make time to listen and share your day’s events daily. To pay off your debts, start by paying debts with small balances

6. Offer a Helping Hand

We live in an unfair society. Fulfillment and happiness are never attained by buying stuff but rather by giving.

The book Give and Take by Adam Grant highlights the importance of being generous as an avenue to succeed.

Life is a boomerang. What you give, you get. Dale Carnegie

You don’t need to give out your income. Find areas you can offer your help.

7. Procrastination: Have Sex Often.

Planning and taking due diligence are good until it ends up in procrastination. Getting stuck in a task enhances a lack of action and no performance. Sex can help you.

Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now informs readers of the essence of not regretting and living in the present. It gives you steps to focus on your daily lives and ignore the past.

‘Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life’ Eckhart Tolle.

Escape the mental cage

Imagine freeing yourself from the mental cages that limit you from reaching your expectations.

Imagine how your life would be if you stopped for a moment. Shift your mind from the state you can make it. Condition it to start taking action.

You should be able to achieve great success if you pick any of these books to help you conquer your fears. You are now equipped with the right tools to stop the lifecycle and start your journey.

Decide to break the chain, and you will be unstoppable.



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